So I ask myself, is innocent flirting with a person that has low self esteem a no-no? I now realize it can very well be.
At my job there is a female in the front office that is friendly and cordial. Not my type but has a good natured personality and welcoming smile ever since I started working there.Interacting with her came easily. She assisted me with paperwork when I began there and I just used my sense of humor to cheer her up when I greeted her. This escalated into everyday hellos and accompanied by comments on how she was a light on a dark day. Yes, talk about cheesy!
A little flirting would happen on my behalf just to pass the time. I actually DID want to make her feel good and maybe cheer her up. At some point soon afterwards, she began to be 'playfully' upset that I was paying and being payed attention by other women. This is where office politics come into play unexpectedly.
There is a female there that she seems to have a rivalry (?) with. Where she feels she does not get the male attention she deserves because of this other female. This other female and I flirt to the point where we call each other 'future husband/future wife'. No big deal but just nice comments thrown about but we both know we're not taking it any further. Sort of an unspoken deal we have. But the first female (front office one) had some questions and the one thrown at me was that she "needs" to know if I like her more than the other one. As Scooby Doo would say "Roh oh!"
Not wanting to ruin a friendship, I patiently asked what was wrong. So she goes on a long admission (confession?) that she has self esteem issues and needed to know I liked her more! Too late I realize I felt like I was being trapped in a slowly closing trash compacter ala "Star Wars". I don't want to be a dick either so instead of doing the manly thing of just telling her that she needed to get over that and not involve me in any personal office rivalry politics or tell the truth and say that I wasn't really attracted to her, I proceeded to patiently say "I'm a man and I flirt. I pick no favorites and my favorite would be the one I'm sleeping with."
Which is still a dickish way to answer.
I did not want any drama at this job. How should I have handled this?
6/10/11
Should he have snooped through her things?
I work at a place that shall remain nameless here, but that some of my closest friends that read this may know. I will keep it nameless because of course I want to be able to keep a job! That being said...
On occasion a bag belonging to someone is forgotten and afterwards we find it. Mostly handbags. Or small luggage. In the past there had been an employee that had been stealing, er, stole for the first time and was caught on said first time. That person was caught in a similar way. That person forgot their handbag and once it was checked for identification and who it belonged to, security saw some items that had no business being there and belonged to the place that person worked for. That became a "Here is your bag and you're fired" deal.
Now as I found this handbag this time, I was not about to sift through it looking for identification or anything. Knowing the person that forgot the bag, I tried solving the situation by sending it back to it's proper owner before that person was gone for the day. My manager was standing a few feet away when I found it and stopped me so he could take a look at it. Not waiting for any security he then proceeded to look through that persons' things. I mean, makeup being moved around, ladies' personal items and even lunch/dinner. Containers opened, other parts unzipped. At this point I'm feeling uncomfortable because I can tell the manager was searching for something incriminating. But everything checked out well.
The thing is, I felt uncomfortable about the whole deal. I felt that the manager should not have searched through the handbag. Maybe I'm wrong about feeling this way?
On occasion a bag belonging to someone is forgotten and afterwards we find it. Mostly handbags. Or small luggage. In the past there had been an employee that had been stealing, er, stole for the first time and was caught on said first time. That person was caught in a similar way. That person forgot their handbag and once it was checked for identification and who it belonged to, security saw some items that had no business being there and belonged to the place that person worked for. That became a "Here is your bag and you're fired" deal.
Now as I found this handbag this time, I was not about to sift through it looking for identification or anything. Knowing the person that forgot the bag, I tried solving the situation by sending it back to it's proper owner before that person was gone for the day. My manager was standing a few feet away when I found it and stopped me so he could take a look at it. Not waiting for any security he then proceeded to look through that persons' things. I mean, makeup being moved around, ladies' personal items and even lunch/dinner. Containers opened, other parts unzipped. At this point I'm feeling uncomfortable because I can tell the manager was searching for something incriminating. But everything checked out well.
The thing is, I felt uncomfortable about the whole deal. I felt that the manager should not have searched through the handbag. Maybe I'm wrong about feeling this way?
6/3/11
What is going on in this pic?
- Batman: He is stuck right in the middle of all the other heroes. He always is in the shadows or in the middle is fine for a selling point. Front and center. But he has to be uncomfortable. The heat from Cyborg and Flash should be burning him up. Green Lantern has some machine gun right next to him. Hope Bats has his earplugs. Superman flying over him will probably make Bats cape go right over his head and cover his floppy ears. Aquaman smells of fish. I'm not even going to mention that if he looks up and right he is looking straight into Wonder Woman's 'chesticles'.
*Aquaman: Poor guy. There is almost no way you can make this guy look regal or powerful in between everyone else. Besides having a cool hairstyle because everyone knows Atlanteans have great hair products. And what is he doing there? Is he leaping? He's not surfing. He is carrying a trident that looks like it was made at the same "Lowe's" that Blue Devil's was. What is going to do with it? He won't be allowed to spear anyone. And will the Justice League's enemies always know they're about to show up because of the smell of fish?
*Green Lantern: Okayyy. WHERE is that machine gun coming from? It actually looks like he is wearing it as a jockstrap! Is it really coming out from his manhood? Because that's what it seems like! Way to go, GL. Now people know you're making up for some shortcomings. Wonder Woman is not impressed.
*Wonder Woman: You are not a very good cowgirl. That lasso looks like it will get caught on the tip of Aquaman's trident. And looks like you were fairly close to looping it around GL's neck and causing either an accidental hanging or knowing his freaky self, bringing him to Michael Hutchence type fame. Careful with that thing. And speaking of thingS, you really need to cover up a bit. Yeah yeah, I know Superman has seen it all before but do you REALLY want to fight Dr. Light wearing that?
*Superman: He's just chilling. Flying. With his eyes closed perhaps. Showoff! And that green from GL's ring around his manhood looks suspiciously like kryptonite green. GL really is that insecure that he is doing that? Shenanigans I say!
*Cyborg: No complaints about him. Lee drew him in a position like he was about to tackle someone a la James Harrison. He is the only one that seems to be smiling. Probably because he's been upgraded from the Titans to the Justice League. Plus he's a human computer. He may actually be reading the latest from cracked.com in there.
*Flash: No complaints here either. He looks good there even though he is photo bombing. All he needed was crazy eyes or something like that.
That is my take on this. And doesn't Batman look like he was hitting the weights quite a bit? He looks bigger than Batista!
6/1/11
What the hell have you done with "House"?
Season seven of "House" is probably the penultimate season of the series. I have enjoyed this show big time ever since it began back in 2004. Now in 2011 I don't want to say the show 'jumped the shark' because I find that term antiquated and overused. But it's done some damage that I (finally) feel cannot be fixed.
(Spoiler alert)...House drives his car straight through Cuddy's house into her dining room almost killing her and some guests. He calmly hands her a comb that he was returning to her and walks away, er, limps away.
Several things are wrong with this scene. Not only because the writers who are fairly smart decided it was smart to write House as unhinged and almost a murderer, but also by committing this act (crime!) he may have passed the point of fans like me seeing him as flawed and grumpy and now almost Vic Mackey in a hospital. The patience with which Lisa Cuddy and best friend Wilson have dealt with him for many seasons of him treating them like dirt and no real redemption nor payoff for his character or how he treats them. They must be destined for angel wings the way they have been so patient with someone who has made them miserable. SO MANY TIMES!
AND do the guests in the house where said car now resides call the authorities? Do they ask him how he is? No. They stare at him. Okay, shock and all that. But then he walks away, er, limps away. How far would he really have gotten? No neighbors are outside with their cameras taping it all for "YouTube". None.
If that had happened where I live, about 50 people would show up in the first minute alone. And held the guy that drove the car.
In the end he is on some beach...somewhere. On the lam as they used to say in old movies.
Writers of "House", you have just fallen for what afflicts every show that feels they need a big send off for a season finale. So, writers of "House", how do you fix this and will I even care?
From a loyal and disappointed fan.
(Spoiler alert)...House drives his car straight through Cuddy's house into her dining room almost killing her and some guests. He calmly hands her a comb that he was returning to her and walks away, er, limps away.
Several things are wrong with this scene. Not only because the writers who are fairly smart decided it was smart to write House as unhinged and almost a murderer, but also by committing this act (crime!) he may have passed the point of fans like me seeing him as flawed and grumpy and now almost Vic Mackey in a hospital. The patience with which Lisa Cuddy and best friend Wilson have dealt with him for many seasons of him treating them like dirt and no real redemption nor payoff for his character or how he treats them. They must be destined for angel wings the way they have been so patient with someone who has made them miserable. SO MANY TIMES!
AND do the guests in the house where said car now resides call the authorities? Do they ask him how he is? No. They stare at him. Okay, shock and all that. But then he walks away, er, limps away. How far would he really have gotten? No neighbors are outside with their cameras taping it all for "YouTube". None.
If that had happened where I live, about 50 people would show up in the first minute alone. And held the guy that drove the car.
In the end he is on some beach...somewhere. On the lam as they used to say in old movies.
Writers of "House", you have just fallen for what afflicts every show that feels they need a big send off for a season finale. So, writers of "House", how do you fix this and will I even care?
From a loyal and disappointed fan.
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